Chelsea Defina on 32-vuotias hyvinvointivalmentaja ja kunto-ohjaaja. Kahden lapsen perheenäiti ei kuitenkaan aina ole elänyt terveellisesti vaan hän on kärsinyt erilaisista päihderiippuvuuksista jo teini-ikäisestä lähtien kunnes päätti muuttaa elämänsä suunnan.
Chelsea Defina alkoi polttamaan kannabista Daily Mail -sivuston mukaan jo 14-vuotiaana. 15-vuotiaana Defina siirtyi kokaiinin käyttäjäksi ja lopulta 26-vuotiaana crack-kokaiinin käyttäjäksi. Sen lisäksi hän nautti alkoholia päivittäin. 27-vuotiaana nainen meni vieroitushoitoon, mutta todellisen pohjan hän koki todistaessaan hänen miehensä Juden repsahtamisen vuonna 2017. Tällöin Chelsea Defina päätti lopullisesti muuttaa elämänsä parempaan suuntaan.
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WE HAVE TO DO BETTER!! For days I have been avoiding the News, Scrolling through Social, or facing the Video of the Truth. I try to surround myself with positivity and uplifting things. But today I knew that doing that is selfish. To not face the truth and hide in my bubble, would help no-one. I am sitting here writing this in tears from what I just watched. How can a world like this be possible? How can people treat people in with such HATE? AND BASED ON THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN????? We have to do better!!! And better starts right here, Right now, with you and our children. Studies show that children cant comprehend what's happening around them, but they can FEEL the effects of stress, uncertainty, and especially HATE! My daughter asks me, why are you sad, what happened mommy? And I had to walk away, because in our household those emotions are rare to come across. We teach LOVE, We teach HOPE! As a mom, it makes me wonder how much of this terrible stuff is filling kids heads right now, these innocent children who didn't ask for this. I don't have any of the answers. But I do know that these two children have no idea what HATE is, but if this continues, going through School I am sure they will learn it. Because if we don't change things NOW they will eventually comprehend it and become a product of it, and I REFUSE to play a part in that, and so should you! The fear and injustice that people feel every day is not right! And I cant begin to understand it or how you may feel, its wrong and this all needs to stop! What we can do is teach our children to LOVE. To teach this next generation that color does not separate us! We are ALL the same!!! WE ARE ALL THE SAME! BLACK LIVES MATTER! That we love our brothers and sisters equally! That God created us equally!!! I know that I am powerless during this entire situation, but what I do know is that I do have power over what Sophia and Owen learn. That I have the power to teach them to LOVE, to teach them that EVERYONE is equal, and we love thy neighbor!!!! So today I will play my part, I will love on my children, make them feel safe, talk them through their own fears, and teach this generation to do better ⬇️
Chelsea Defina lopetti kaikki päihteet alkoholin mukaan lukien. Raitistumisen lisäksi Defina alkoi välttelemään prosessoituja ruokia. Terveellisten elämäntapojen ja liikkumisen myötä perheenäiti laihtui yli 25 kiloa. Tällä hetkellä nainen toimii inspiraationa monille muille naisille ja auttaa etenkin muita äitejä pääsemään myös elämänsä parhaaseen kuntoon.
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Here it is…me being Vulnerable: Sure opening up can be frightening, but it is necessary in order to grow, form relationships, and find the real you! So here is something I don't usually talk about…my relationship. My husband and I met each other when we were both newly sober, something everyone urges you not to do…but we did it anyways. Two people straight out of sobriety (well fighting for sobriety now working on a relationship with each other- well the odds were against us, and everyone made sure to tell us that) We both had our relapses, losses, and wins. But we had two beautiful children and created a beautiful home through it all. I think for so long I let those voices get to me, although I didn't talk about it. That we were never meant to be together, that we fell in love in rehab, and this was all a fantasy we created. I would see these "perfect" relationships on social media and tell myself I wanted that. But what is perfect? I grew up in a household with a very dominant mother who had high expectations of others, which led to my expectations being very high. (Not a bad thing) My husband always said he felt inadequate with me and I always brushed it off, until being away for two weeks I started to realize why. MY expectations are far too HIGH. I expect him to do the things that I don't want to do. OR to have the exact same ambition as me for the things I love. I have threatened him to leave, I have said hurtful things. And why? Being away I realized he does far more than I allowed myself to see. He goes to work every single day, he is a great father, and yes a great husband. I have spent my entire life fighting happiness and not even realizing it. Pushing away any form of normal relationship because I was too afraid to focus on myself. We cant expect others to look out of the same looking glass were looking out of. We cant make them have the same fire we do for the same things we do. I fell in love with my husband at the most vulnerable point in my life, a life where I had created a blank slate. And although it was alot harder than it should have been, we made it through!! ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️
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#TransformationTuesday 4 Years ago shortly after my baby girl was born, I reluctantly turned to a state run WIC program that provided formula for her- formula I couldn't afford to buy myself. I relied on their assistance for a year and a half, as well as after the birth of my son. Walking into the office one day with two kids, was a clear and defining moment in my life. I was in my late 20's and my life was spiraling downward fast in all categories; finances, family, fitness, faith, friends, fun, and freedom. I could see where I was in life based entirely on the decisions I made over the last 5 years, and nearly everyone of them led me down the path of gradual decline. Deep down inside I knew I had to move from a life of entitlement to a life of responsibility. One decision I made was critical. I decided to do something every day that I normally wouldn't do, I would start following successful people, people that seemed to have it more together than I did. And every day I did something little. EVERYDAY. ✅I started a Fitness Program ✅I stopped taking a Nap during the day ✅I stopped putting the TV on, except as a reward some nights ✅I stopped mindlessly walking to the refrigerator ✅I started reading books that filled my head with useful knowledge 15 minutes a day ✅I started planning my days in advance ✅I started planning my meals ✅I started HELPING others, living a life of selflessness rather than selfishness THE LIST goes on! Every small seemingly insignificant decision I made over the course of the past 2 years were decisions that fed very simple positive disciplines, instead of those simple errors in judgement. The majority of my decisions were now leading me dow the path of growth. I'll never forget those days of struggling- fall off track, get back on track, fall off track, get back on track. Realizing I was the project, I went to work on me. I read and applied what I learned through the books I was reading, I went to work, and I did my best. I applied long-term vision and delayed gratification. I knew that in order to be successful I had to do what others were not willing to do themselves. If I became a success it would be because of me. 🔽🔽🔽